How many times have you said "why didn't these kids come with a behavior management plan?" Good news! There is a behavior management plan and in it are wonderful blueprints (or concepts) on how to parent effectively.
Dr. James Lehman's Total Transformation has several key concepts that teach your child responsibility and accountability. You will learn these concepts and also how to use them.
The Concepts
Proven behavior management plans have techniques that give you a solid foundation on which to continue building your parenting skills. I have listed 4 of these below that worked right away for me.
1. Single Issue focus. Children love to get us off track with an unrelated argument. This trick can easily get you frustrated and make you forget what you wanted to do in the first place. You must be in control of the conversation so you can keep the focus on the issue. You can validate the child's 'other' concern by setting up a time later to discuss it. Don't be hesitant to have notes if you tend to get easily distracted.
2. Consequences. All rules have consequences and it is only right to let the kids know what both are. Your job is to follow through with them. Consequences are a preferrable way to handle bad behavior because they establish a sense of right and wrong. They also maintain structure and values, in the short term. Do know that lasting change does not come from the consequences. What they do is make the child own their change. You cannot base the consequences on assumptions of what your child may be thinking. Only on their behavior.
3. Be Selective on Attention giving. Use this parenting tool at every opportunity. It not only gives you a stress break, it will help the child seek to change when they found out that their unimportant bad behaviors will not get them noticed. Especially when they get positive attention for their good behavior. Everyone who is involved with the child must practice this for it to work. Your child will start making an effort to change his behavior on his own.
4. Redirect Interest. This concept also utilizes another skill out of your parenting toolbox-creative thinking. When your child is stuck on negative thinking, change the topic. Switching the activity or conversation will stop the downward mood spiral. This concept can also work well when coupled with the above noted Selective Attention. This will also teach them how doing something positive and productive can change their mood.
These are just 4 of the important behavior management plan skills that can positively effect change in your kids without a lot of parenting effort.
Take back control of your house TODAY! Develop a behavior modification plan especially for YOUR family. Total Transformation by James Lehman will empower you as parents in a manner you never believed possible!
Orignal From: Behavior Management Plans for Children - 4 Strategies
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